What’s wrong with familiarity? Being able to know all the ins and outs of a person, all the best and worst parts about them and after all that still loving them all the same, isn’t that what it’s all about? Movies, tv shows, and music all commercialize love into this “one-size-fits-all” thing that makes it seem that all love is about is that initial feeling of butterflies and endless excitement, but love is so much more than that. Relationships and marriages fail because people chase this fleeting idea of love. Love is that cutesy stuff sure, but more than anything it’s work. Love happens the moment you stop thinking of just yourself and realize that your happiness should really come from giving to the other. Selflessness, that’s real romance.
As I’m sure many of you have already realized, life rarely goes according to the grand plan we’ve laid out, so you want the person that’s going to be there, like really be there, for the times when everything goes to shit. It’s easy to love someone when things are good, because you’re not being tested, it’s being able to love someone even when they’re at their absolute worst that separates what love is portrayed as versus what love really is.
A Letter From Fred
To share so much with one person, it’s an amazing thing
I feel like the older we get, the more we try and please others. Why? Because we don’t want to disappoint. We don’t want to disappoint our friends, our family, our co-workers, our bosses but you can’t win over every one, so there’s no real point in killing yourself trying to get that 1 or two extra people to like you. The fact of the matter is, all the people that really matter aren’t subscribed to your friendship based on the number of good deeds you do for them, they’re around because they want to be. Do things that will better you, because assuming you’re not some horrible person, who you are is already enough. Kindness and generosity don’t need an audience, be kind because it’s who you are. Focus less on bringing people in, and put more onus in taking care of those whom you already have.